by Julia Langley | Apr 17, 2023 | Uncategorized
What does that mean really?
Getting your head in the right place. I’ve thought a lot about that this week and I pose the question. What is the right place? And more importantly: will you know it when you get there?
The answer is: probably not. And here’s why.
We have all been there. Where everything is spinning and you feel as though you are completely out of control. There is too much on your plate. There are too many things going on in your life to: start your business, work on yourself, exercise, get healthy, improve a skill, etc. . .
And then. . . 6 months later. You haven’t grown. You’re exactly the same
And then. . . 12 months later. You haven’t grown. You’re exactly the same
And your head? It’s still spinning. Calculating. Planning. And your heart? Still longing for change.
Let’s be honest here. It’s another excuse NOT to do something.
In a three year period, I was hit by a car while riding my bike, I had 4 major surgeries, a pandemic hit and I was laid off from work, my father passed and my family home was destroyed by an F3 tornado. We were robbed, taken advantage of by con-men contractors and then had a car accident.
And I still managed to grow my business. To shift gears and go in a new direction. To have a spiritual breakthrough and a rebirth of life. It was the worst of times and it was the best of times.
And My head. .. well honestly, it was a roller coaster. I was in pain, grief stricken, stressed, scared, depressed, and yet hopeful and grateful and determined to be a better, stronger, smarter version of myself.
My head wasn’t in the right place at all, but as a result of the storms of life, a great coach, and my own internal work, it MOVED to the right place. I gained more clarity in the DOING. My strength came from the DOING. I learned from DOING.
Don’t get me wrong, planning is important. But we can plan all day every day. We can read the manual and plan it down to perfection and life continues to happen around us. And then. . . we still have to improvise. Sickness in our families, friendship difficulties, stresses over money. Life is not easy and it is just like the ocean. . . it keeps on coming. And we have to roll with the waves.
Your head will continue to change and evolve and that is exactly where we want it to be!
So the moral of this story is. . . . Do the thing that you know you should do. Join the class, get a coach, start the book, and don’t look back. Every day you wait is one day less you have to make things happen for you.
DO the thing. Get better. Grow. Commit. even when you don’t feel like it. Even when it’s easier to put it off. Even when life throws you some curveballs. DO THE THING.
And 6 months later: you are dynamic and hopeful and more confident
And 12 months later: you are unstoppable
And your life will be forever changed!
Is Your Head in The Right Place?
by Julia Langley | Jan 13, 2023 | Uncategorized
It’s been a rough start to 2023.
Coming off of a great year in 2022, I have been looking forward to more expansion. More growth. More Fun. Mr. Murphy has a way of showing up at the most unwelcome times.
A family member had a stroke on Christmas Eve. COVID and bronchitis were rampant. Frigid cold temperatures that we were completely unequipped for slowed progress and hampered the holidays. And through it all, while caregiving, and recovering, I am attempting to develop a plan to propel my business forward in 2023. In that type of chaos it’s easy to understand why New Year Resolutions and goals don’t last.
There is a 91% dropout rate for New Year Resolutions!!!! Can you image if just half of those people were able to achieve their goals what a difference it would make? Here’s the sticking point though. . . It’s hard. Really Hard. And unless we are willing to face the hard things, we won’t grow. So. . 91% of the people in the world will be in exactly the same spot they are in this time next year. That’s hard to wrap your head around!!
Why do New Year Resolutions and Goals fall away so quickly? How can we change that so that we can live better? Make a difference in the world? Help our families? Build our businesses?
1. Is there a goal attached to your resolution? A statement without a goal is just a statement.
ASK YOURSELF: Exactly what is it that I want to achieve.
The goal is the end result. The resolution is your method to get there. You cannot define what you want without an end result.
2. Are your goals too long term? Set your goals in shorter increments.
ASK YOURSELF: Do You get bored easily?
I learned through a human design class that I get bored very fast. To keep my creativity flowing I have to continuously be looking at new goals and new actions or it becomes stale. For years I thought I was impulsive and broken because of this tendency. It is a relief to know that I am not. Set goals for a month, or three months. This is much easier to attain than 12 months.
3. Do you run out of energy? Use smaller periods of time to accomplish tasks
ASK YOURSELF: Do you get exhausted thinking about sticking to a resolution?
Most people think that a commitment requires massive amounts of time and energy. Commitment is actually about consistency though. When I coach people speaking or performing, I ask them to schedule 15 minutes a day starting out. Develop the pattern of doing SOMETHING. . and as you work that commitment muscle, it will get stronger.
4. Does life get in the way? Setting boundaries is paramount
ASK YOURSELF: Do you feel guilty when you take 15 minutes to focus on you?
For busy parents and working people life is pulling us in a million different directions. You have to protect that personal time fiercely. Others may even give you a hard time about it. Stand your ground. Drop the guilt and know that if you don’t take those few minutes to accomplish your personal goals, you won’t be at your best for others.
5. How do you set your goals? Goals must be relevant and attainable.
ASK YOURSELF: Is this truly achievable?
Quite often in our efforts to be bold and strong, we set goals that really aren’t appropriate for our circumstances. For example, I can say this year, I am going to open a bakery and make $500,000. I bake really well, but my decorating skills are TERRIBLE. So the goal should be, to learn how to decorate cakes and see if I can even be successful at it. If I can’t make a basic birthday cake look good then I think that $500,000 is not going to be achievable.
6. Do you have a plan? It’s great to dream and to set goals but you must have a CLEAR plan to get there.
ASK YOURSELF: What is the first step I need to take and then look at the next 5 steps.
Be resourceful. Be flexible and be creative. If one step is blocked, find a way around it.
One of the most profound things that I learned in 2022 was that WE ARE TESTED. Sounds simple right? I forget this though. Every day.
These challenges to our resolutions and goals are temporary barriers. They are tests. Life is saying, “How much do you want this”? And you have to decide.
If you view every challenge as a test. . then it becomes simple. Rise to the occasion. Find a way around the barriers and follow the clear path with consistency and commitment to success.
Cheers to your new year and all that it has in store for you! Blessings and Beyond!!
by Julia Langley | Sep 20, 2022 | Uncategorized
Julia is a Cirque du Soleil singer, Motivational Speaker and Creator and Coach of “Commanding Confident Performances” her signature mentorship program to help high-level performances overcome stage fright so that they can be recognized for their talents worldwide. Julia is also a #1 Best Selling Author in Public Speaking and Speech Writing for her business book “Called To Speak, Lead and Impact”
THE SUN RISES ON MY BIRTHDAY NEW YEAR!!!!
The Blog Begins!!!!
Many people think of September as a time for the sun to start settingon the year. Images of football, pumpkin spice, and cozy sweaters start coming to mind (unless of course you live in South Florida and are still dodging hurricanes and tropical storms).
I often correlate months of the year with colors, and September represents the earth and all of it’s natural beauty. Shades of taupe, greenish browns, and a light rust begin to emerge. The yellows of summer are still there but more muted and everything seems to soften a bit. Maybe it’s my perspective and maybe I soften a bit so the environment around me seems gentler and kinder. After all, our life is determined quite often by our perspective. However there is a definite kindness to the month of Septemeber.
Birthday Month
For me though, the most exciting part of September, is the fact that it’s my birthday month. AND my New Year kickoff rolled up into one! It’s not a sunset but a sunrise instead.
I see my birthday as the start of my very own personalized New Year! Another year to make more of a difference. It’s a time to set new goals and figure out ways of reaching those goals. It’s a chance to celebrate past success, fully feel my gratitude for the moment, and get excited about the hope for a bright future!
What are your goals for your New Year?
I love to publicly communicate my goals. When you say them out loud they become more real and you can organize the thought in a better way. Here are mine and as you read these, I encourage you to think about your own.
Network more.- Meet more people and find out ways that I can support them
Travel more – Enjoy learning about new places and people and the differences that make us all unique
Serve my clients better – I am committed to taking my coaching programs to another level and serving my clients in new and unique ways
Speak and Sing more – God has blessed me with gifts and it is my duty as his servant to share those gifts, ideas, music and movtivation with the world
AND WRITE more – This is the first of monthly blog posts that I will post and I am excited to see what new topics and methods I will gain as I learn and grow through this process.
I hope you will join me on this new journey in this new year. Onwards and Upwards!!
Julia
“Your voice is stronger than your challenges”
